[مستر/ عصام الجاويش]

المشاركة الأصلية كتبت بواسطة ابو بيشو

I had rather (that) you told him than( that) I did .
هذا ما يسمى past subjunctive

I'd rather you didn't smoke.

I had rather you hadn't smoked.

Both are expressing preferences but the second is more polite/remote.

Note the tenses.